Nothing strains a relationship more than distance. Money and commitment issues might be close seconds however. Many people say long distance relationships never work so why bother try. On the other hand, some people are optimistic on this kind of topic and believe that if the couple's bond is strong enough, anything is possible. I tend to look at life as if the glass is half full instead of half empty, so I believe they can work. Although with any relationship, no matter the distance, both people have to work at the relationship. Both have to try to make it work, meaning it will more than likely be ten times harder when you factor in the distance. If you go into the relationship thinking its not going to work, then that's pretty much setting yourself up for failure. You should go into the relationship believing in the fact that you guys will both try to make an effort to make this work. Without believing in this concept, both of you are admitting to each other, along with yourselves, that this relationship is going nowhere and that there's no hope of a future for the two of you. There's no point in being in a relationship that's not leading up to something big, such as marriage or a family. Especially in your colleges years and or early twenties, which is when a lot of people begin to look for their soul mate and the person they want to spend the rest of their life with.
Looking back on past long distant relationships and seeing how they didn't work out isn't the best way to stay motivated and positive about the relationship. Maybe those other relationships didn't work for a reason. Maybe if you would've stayed with those old flames, you might have missed out on meeting your true soulmate. The universe works in mysterious ways and sometimes those ways can't always be explained. So instead of looking back on long distance relationships and only seeing the negative side, try looking at it from a new perspective. Try looking at it as a way for you to move on with your life, instead of continuously looking back. Whether you and that special someone are a couple miles apart or even a couple hundred miles apart, relationships still take a lot of work. You have to show the other person that you care about them, which can prove to be difficult for couples far apart. Even though you may be in different time zones, showing your significant other how much you love them doesn't have to be rocket science. A simple good morning and goodnight text and or call will do. If you're feeling gracious enough, a surprise bouquet of flowers and or chocolate is also a nice little treat as well. With today's age of technology, it's much easier to communicate with people halfway around the world. FaceTime, Skype, Twitter, Facebook, etc. The closet thing to face to face communication is Skype or Face Time. Both have proven themselves as a life saver to many relationships all over the world. Even though the stats are against you, having faith in not only your significant other but yourself as well can either make or break a relationship. Believe that it'll work and you never know what might come of that long distant relationship that no one ever thought would work out. Who knows, maybe wedding bells are in your future, but you'll never know until you try.
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